Mirror Mirror on the wall

First indulge me a token insincere platitude by wishing any and all who follow my thoughts a happy new year, obviously you should not take this as a heartfelt hope that your life prospers, but simply the socially acceptable way of entering another cycle of 365 days.

And so with 2011 behind us and the impending end of the world on December 21st in front, my new year has started as most do, a promise to be at the gym, to eat healthy and to enjoy life, the fact that i went to the gym in the same runners i did last January 1st tells you how that panned out last year, but i once more meander through the quagmire of random thoughts, and should come to the point..

Beauty is, as is said, in the eye of the beholder, well let me put you straight on this, if your female that's not true. I know this to be the case not because of some psychic insight into the female mind, but because my stunning wife does nothing but run her self down constantly in terms of her body. I am going to introduce my female readers to a novel concept, you are not what your mind shows you when you look in a mirror.

As a husband my wife looks as stunning to me today as she did 10 years ago, i do not see the things she does, I could take the high ground and say that's because i see past the physical to some spiritual connection, or she could take the typical woman's role of saying its because i don't look anymore, but the truth is simple a soul mate, a partner for life is much like a tattoo, if you thought the look of it wouldn't change over the years you probably shouldn't have got it in the first place.

Why are woman so obsessed with their bodies as they get older? Does my wife have the bust she had 20 years ago? I bloody hope not because she was breastfeeding then, and if its still that way now i suspect there's something shes not telling me. Is her, shall we offer a little decorum and say, derriere as firm as it was in her late teens? No, but then its hardly the sack of spuds she thinks it is either. I think men are in a difficult position, we know our wives, lovers, partners don't have the same body as they did when we met them, and we also know there is no right answer to them when they ask. The fact is this, we don't care that we can no longer use your nipples are a coat rack, nor do we mind about those lines on your thighs, you mind and i feel only because you think we do.

The fact is this, make the most of the things you have, stop being so self critical, stop encouraging others to see flaws that only you perceive. You are not what you see in the mirror, and if someone loves you then there one wish would be for you to see you the way they see you. Lets be fair if you look in the mirror and don't find one thing to criticise you must be from Jersey/Gordie Shore, The Only Way Is Essex or Made In Chelsea... In which case what you see in the mirror is the very least of your worries.