A Serving Suggestion...

They say revenge is a dish best served cold. Now that's a saying as old as the hills, but I'm yet to work out the best way to prepare this dish... That is until now. We have contemplated revenge at some time or another, how to get even with that ex lover, neighbour, the school bully. We have all plotted our methodical all be it hypothetical plan to inflict the maximum damage upon those who have wronged us, and then without the courage to act out our plan we have all let revenge eat away at us.

Now i have more than my share of skeletons in the proverbial closet, I have in the past wronged people who deserve their want for revenge, and just as many have wronged me and are worthy of my desire to do unto them etc, but of late i think i have cracked it, the ultimate revenge, the sort of comeback that takes a long time to achieve, but gives the definitive feeling that you got your own back. The trick is to do nothing. WHAT? I hear the chorus of disapproval already from those that have to listen to me rant on about my former spouse, but wait, stop, think about it for just a second. By doing nothing, by moving forward and living life to the full have I not extracted the sweetest revenge? I hear often about things my former spouse would like to happen to me, most involve large fast moving vehicles, strains of some yet to be cured virus or the random appearance of holes in the ground large enough to consume me, but hang on think I. It is alleged that the aim on my part was to ruin her life, well if after 8 years she's still looking to get even then i would argue its fair to say i managed it. While if we view my side of the coin after 8 years I'm happy, married to a fantastic woman and feel no ill will towards by ex, so if her aim was to ruin my life, as my 14 year old step son says, Epic Failure.

My point is this, you don't have to love someone or hate them, you can just live your life and let them worry about theirs. When you make it your life's aim to wrong another person all in the name of revenge then your not getting it, in fact your letting them just get further in front. Sometimes I wonder many things about those who would do me wrong, do they know how flattering it is that they still have nothing better to talk about than me? Do their new partners not resent the effort they put into finding new and elaborate ways to try and deliver their furious anger? I do not seek revenge on those that have or do wrong me anymore, i have learnt that the best vengeance is to not waste another second of your time on that person, to live your live to the full showing them that no matter how awful their actions they have no effect on you. Just as revenge may be best served cold, i prefer Mr Tyler's advice... Don't get mad get even.